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Oct 1 2013

Day 1: Meet the Doula- my birth journey

If you're new to Bold Turquoise and here for my 31 Days of Bellies, Birth and Babies from a Doula's Perspective- WELCOME! I'm so happy to have you and hope you will do me the honor of sticking with me through the month of October as I talk all about one of my very favorite topics! If you haven't already, then be sure to hop over to my sidebar (or click on the little envelope up in my header) to subscribe to my blog so that you don't miss any of this jam-packed month!

There is lots going on this month with this series, so to get the full lowdown or to simply find all the days linked up in one place, you can find the official Bellies, Birth and Babies Page here. And thank you to The Nester for creating the awesome 31 Days of challenge!

Meet the Doula at Bold Turquoise

Meet the Doula

For those of you who may not know, let me give you a little bit of history on myself. I am a wife, mom to 3, homemaker, homeschooler, blogger, doula and all-around crunchy mama in disguise! I am a suburban girl living on a little country farm and doing my darndest to live both boldly and graciously (which isn't always the easiest thing for this rather outspoken mama!).

My Jouney to Becoming a Doula

I have been a birth, postpartum and pregnancy loss doula for 5 years now. I was originally drawn to the idea of helping other women through their pregnancy, birth and postpartum experiences when my oldest son was just about 1 and a half and I was still processing his birth experience. Being a young, and admittedly naive, mama and not really understanding my options (plus thinking that homebirth would just be a giant, scary mess) I saw my usual OB and delivered Roman at the largest and most high-tech hospital in our area.

As luck would have it, Roman presented Posterior (facing up) and ended up giving me a very difficult 21 hour labor. By the grace of God I ended up having two doulas at his birth (one was backing up the other but both ended up staying because things were getting so crazy) and to this day I still credit them as being the reasons why I did not end up with a c-section. They essentially played good-cop/bad-cop and got me through a difficult natural birth at one of the absolute hardest hospitals to do so. I've said it before and I'll say it again- thank you Sharon and Jen!

After Roman's birth I began questioning and rethinking everything I knew about birth. Sure I had had some sense to get a doula for his labor, but I hadn't really known anything about what I was doing or why (other than my fear of an epidural and subsequent catherization! Seriously!). I had gone to the same practice that my mom went to when she was pregnant and relied almost exclusively on the pamphlets they provided me with, along with my trusty copy of What to Expect When You're Expecting. I took the hospital birthing class recommended by my doctor, because I honestly didn't even know there were any other options available, and headed into birth knowing very little more than how to be a good patient.

Realizing how much I had innocently missed and how much more difficult I had made my entire pregnancy, birthing and postpartum experience, made me feel compelled to become a doula so I could help other innocent new mamas avoid some of the pitfalls I had slid down. It was then that my true birthing education began.

I started my training, read voraciously, attended an amazing birthing class and started getting involved in my local birth community. Soon after I began my training I got pregnant with my second so and attended five births during his pregnancy, one of which was on Christmas! In a very short time I acquired experiences with a very wide array of births- everything from unassisted to hospital, from inductions and epidurals to natural water births, even the tragic loss of one of the babies, and the list goes on. It was an amazing, humbling and eye-opening time and only validated made desire to help women and have a home waterbirth of my own.

What My Doula Work Looks Like Today

Well, my desire for my own home waterbirth did come true, in fact, I have now had two since those early days of doula-hood! (You can read Judah's birth story here and Emmerson's birth story here). But, with the addition of two more little people to my family, it has become harder to be on call and hop up at a moments notice in the middle of the night to rush off to a birth that could last anywhere from 4 hours to 2 days, as I'm sure you can imagine!

Emmerson's Birth

My love for birth and my desire to help mamas have the most complete and healthy experiences possible for their births as well as their postpartum recovery, bonding and breastfeeding relationship, however, is still very much alive in me! So now, while I may not be able to spend lots of time away from my family to support women in their birthing and postpartum journeys, I find that I can help teach them about what their choices look like and act as a guide through that process. I am now able to speak at meetings, events and classes and meet with couples for private classes, things I can schedule instead of being on call for, as well as give consultations and guidance online (by email or even FaceTime, Skype or even Google+ hangouts) and over the phone.

The thing I especially love about where my doula work is at right now, is that though I am not able to be present for births I am able to be impactful in much different ways. I am not limited to just guiding a woman through birth, instead I am able to teach her about everything that is available to her in her entire childbearing year, from fertility all the way through early parenting. Food choices, parenting styles, cloth diapers, essential oils, breastfeeding, babywearing, natural cleaning and body care, sleep solutions, postpartum health and recovery- you name it, I love to share and teach about making the absolute most out of such a precious time in our lives!

This Series

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So, this series was really born out of that passion. It is the culmination of many of the things I love to teach about and when this series is over I will actually be expanding on these posts as well as creating a workbook that will be available in ebook form early in the new year. I don't claim to know it all by any means, but what I do know and have experienced I deeply want to share with all of you!

So please, join me this month in learning more about the childbearing year and forming a community of mamas who support and love on each other in this incredible journey of motherhood!

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4 thoughts on “Day 1: Meet the Doula- my birth journey

  1. Heather

    So excited about this series. Pregnancy, birth and post-partum are passions of mine too! Look forward to reading more and checking out your birth-stories tomorrow! I need sleep right now! 🙂 I didn’t even have the sense to get a doula the first time (ended up with an induction and epi), had an unplanned hospital birth due to serious complications (feared placental abruption) and then two home water-births.

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